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21st May 2015

5 Things College Taught Me

If you are thinking of going to a sixth form college, please don’t let me put you off! Everyone else I know has had a brilliant time, so if you think it’s right for you: go!

5 Things College Taught Me

Tomorrow is my last day at college. If I had to describe my experience of college in three words, I would say ‘The Failed Experiment’. I had such high hopes, such big expectations, for what sixth form college would be. It was absolutely none of them. ‘There are over 2,000 people there’ I said, ‘I’ll definitely find loads of new friends and cute guys there!’. Those were my famous last words.

When I was younger, my family moved to the other side of the world for three years. Before I was told we were moving there, I didn’t even know Tasmania existed. Going to sixth form college, about forty minutes from where I used to go to school, has been harder than that.

‘The first term’s always the hardest, it’ll be better by Chirstmas’ they said. Then it became ‘the first years always the hardest, the second will be better’. Let me tell you: over time, the more I cried and the more hope I’ve lost, the worse it got. My best memory of college will be leaving.

Still, in an effort to take something positive from the whole experience, I’ve thought about all the stuff I actually learnt at college (besides how the UK political system works and everything that happened in Germany between 1900 and 1945).

1. Social media is no substitute for face-to-face contact 

This sounds so obvious, but if college has taught me anything, it’s this. So many people my age seem to think that facebook messages, texts, tweets and instagram comments are enough to keep a friendship afloat – especially when there’s some distance involved. Alone, they’re not. I can text someone all night and still feel like there’s oceans between us. When you say something funny, you want to hear the other person laugh. When you say something cheeky, you want to catch the other person’s eye and smile so they know it’s a joke. Now, whenever I can, I’m pestering people to meet up. I’d rather catch up over a coffee than a few texts any day.

2. Smile

Seriously, smile at people! Smile at every person you see! Flashing a quick smile at someone immediately makes me feel happier, whether I know them or not. It works the other way too, it’s so nice when someone smiles at you. Also, when you walk past someone who you used to chat to all the time and blank them, it’s rude and it hurts more than you’d think. I’ve experienced it enough to know.

3. Being alone won’t kill you 

When I was at school, I never went anywhere without a friend. Going to the canteen, take a friend. Going to the toilets, take a friend. Going to hand in some homework, take a friend. I haven’t really made any close friends at college, and definitely not ones I can drag around everywhere with me, so I’ve spent most of my time alone. I don’t enjoy it (especially when everyone else seems to be constantly surrounded by their pals) but it’s been good for me. I can’t say I’m 100% confident by myself, but I’m getting there.

4. True friends come in short supply

If I counted now, I would say I had about 5 true friends. When I was at school, I would’ve said four times that, not counting casual acquaintances. That doesn’t sound like a positive thing, but to me, it really is. My friends are the sort of people I’d say I feel genuinely lucky to know. They’re the ones that can always make me smile when I’m unhappy, the ones I can trust with anything; I wouldn’t swap them for all the fair-weather friends in the world. College has taught me that friends like this aren’t easy to come by, and that I should always be grateful for the ones I have.

5. The best way out is always through

As much as I’ve hated college, leaving was never an option for me. If I’d left and re-started somewhere, I would’ve had to start first year again. And what if I’d hated it there too? (I’m clearly an optimist!) For me, it’s helped to see college as just a stop on the road to uni, and going somewhere new would put me a step back from studying the subject I absolutely love. Yes, there have been times when I’ve wanted to drop out altogether, and times when I’ve given up and not gone in at all. At the end of the day though, I knew the quickest way out was just to get on with it.

Having said all that, if I could go back in time, I don’t think I’d change my decision to go to college. I’ve met lots of lovely and interesting people there, it’s broadened my horizons and helped me escape from the ‘private school bubble’ I was trapped in. Most of all, it’s made me less judgmental of others. I’ve been lucky enough to have great teachers, and really enjoy the subjects I chose. If I’d stayed at my old school the pressure, stress and unhappiness probably would’ve ruined me.

Nevermind though, it’s all over now. I think a small part of me might even miss it. . .

Onwards and upwards!

Panda Eyes xx

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Posted by Panda Eyes 8 Comments
Filed Under: Lifestyle Tagged: College, Lifestyle, Sixth Form College

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  1. Mari says

    7th August 2015 at 6:41 am

    when i was younger it seemed so easy to find good friends but as you grow up i guess it just gets harder. Reading your post, more specifically the true friends part, it was refreshing to see that feeling challenged to find those good quality friends can be more common than i had previously thought.

    Reply
    • Panda Eyes says

      7th August 2015 at 9:44 am

      Yeah, I definitely agree with you. Talking to people I know about my experience at college, I don’t think it’s an uncommon problem at all!!

      Reply
  2. Maireem says

    27th May 2015 at 7:30 am

    Love this post. I totally agree with all of this :)

    http://www.maireem.blogspot.com

    Reply
    • Panda Eyes says

      27th May 2015 at 9:58 am

      thanks! x

      Reply
  3. helen at thelovecatsinc says

    24th May 2015 at 10:15 pm

    totally agree that being alone won’t kill you! i think it’s important to be by yourself sometimes, it boosts your confidence and teaches you not to always rely on others

    from helen at thelovecatsinc.com

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    • Panda Eyes says

      24th May 2015 at 10:56 pm

      Took me a while to realise it wouldn’t haha I think I’ve definitely learnt not to rely on other people so much in the past two years! x

      Reply
  4. Kirsty says

    21st May 2015 at 7:03 pm

    I’m glad you did publish this, it was a really good read! I’m with you on the whole never going anywhere alone thing, when I first got to uni I remember being so shocked when my best friend she was away into town to look round the shops on her own, I’d literally never done that! Now I prefer to go on my own because then I don’t feel guilty about spending an hour in Boots.

    I’m sorry you hated college, I think sometimes it is so hit or miss depending what other people go and whether you’re lucky enough to meet people you click with. At least you’re done with it anyway!

    Kirsty x

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    • Panda Eyes says

      21st May 2015 at 10:32 pm

      Aw thanks :) I love wasting hours and hours in Boots, I know how you feel! x

      Reply

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